We are taught that if either party gets angry or upset, the Christian loses.   According to Greg Koukl, we need to learn to be ambassadors for Christ in a non-Christian world.   The following creed is quoted directly from Greg’s book:

“THE AMBASSADOR’S CREED     An ambassador is . . .

Ready. An ambassador is alert for chances to represent Christ and will not back away from a challenge or an opportunity.

Patient. An ambassador won’t quarrel, but will listen in order to understand, then with gentleness will seek to respectfully engage those who disagree.

Reasonable. An ambassador has informed convictions (not just feelings), gives reasons, asks questions, aggressively seeks answers, and will not be stumped by the same challenge twice.

Tactical. An ambassador adapts to each unique person and situation, maneuvering with wisdom to challenge bad thinking, presenting the truth in an understandable and compelling way.

Clear. An ambassador is careful with language and will not rely on Christian lingo nor gain unfair advantage by resorting to empty rhetoric.

Fair. An ambassador is sympathetic and understanding toward others and will acknowledge the merits of contrary views.

Honest. An ambassador is careful with the facts and will not misrepresent another’s view, overstate his own case, or understate the demands of the gospel.

Humble. An ambassador is provisional in his claims, knowing that his understanding of truth is fallible. He will not press a point beyond what his evidence allows.

Attractive. An ambassador will act with grace, kindness, and good manners. He will not dishonor Christ in his conduct.

Dependent. An ambassador knows that effectiveness requires joining his best efforts with God’s power.”

 

Koukl, Gregory (2009-05-26). Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (pp. 199-200). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.